Practical Ways to Help the Single Mom in Your Life
The most practical ways to help the single mom in your life include time, prayers, financial support, and belief in her. This is the kind of help that gives her hope!
Years ago, when I first became a single mom, my parents gave me the gift I needed most. Time. They watched my kids while I grieved the loss of my marriage and tried to figure out a way to survive.
I had tiny little kids, and there was simply no time for myself during those early days. They would take the kids and just love on them.
They would take them fishing and watch movies with them during nap time.
These actions saved me and my children! I was so afraid and broken. They gave the time to grieve and to heal. I am forever grateful!
The following are the most practical ways to help the single mom in your life. Your support is vital!
The first practical way to help a single mom is to give her your time.
This may be the most important way to help a single mom! My parents and friends gave me their time, and it was by far what I needed the most.
The single mom in your life is coping with a massive loss. The dream of what she thought her life would look like has crumbled into her lap, leaving her with no idea how to cope.
She’s focusing on how to take care of her children while dealing with this loss. And she needs time.
Offer to watch her children for a few hours each week. This is a huge gift!
Give her the gift of time to let her process. Let her ramble nonsensically. She’s trying to verbalize what has happened and what is happening.
If you are unable to process this with her, you may want to very gently suggest going to counseling to deal with the trauma.
Here is a link to the Christian Counselor Directory.
https://www.christiancounselordirectory.com/
If you can give nothing else to the single mom in your life, give her your time.
Help the single mom in your life by giving her compassion.
The people who helped me the very most were the people who gave compassion and understanding.
The single mom in your life is broken right now. She will heal and grow, but in the beginning, she is broken.
Judgment and legalism are not what she needs now. Please consider this previous post on that subject.
https://www.singlemomoutwest.com/overcoming-judgment-as-a-single-mom/
And those kids? They need compassion. Deep compassion. Felt every day.
They need someone to be in their corner! Someone to listen and to understand!
Help the Single Mom in your life by giving her hope.
She can’t see it now, but she will have a future full of peace and happiness.
It’s your job to give her this vision.
My best friend gave me this when she told me to write down how I wanted my life to look in five years.
This simple act gave me hope. I was drowning in sorrow and pain, and she came along with a vision of what life could look like.
Here is a link to that post:
https://www.singlemomoutwest.com/setting-goals-as-a-single-mom/
Helping the single mom in your life may include gifts or money.
These are not required to show support for the single mom in your life, but they can be beneficial.
A timely gift of money, or a pizza, can be a great boost to the single mom!
And please remember the children! My aunt has faithfully sent boxes of gifts to my kids, and I loved seeing their little faces light up!
She’s miles away, but feels closer than some family members!
Consider paying for a meal out or sending her and the kids on a trip by themselves to get away.
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My Single Mom Life by Angela Thomas is a book that I give to single moms. This was a book that changed everything for me!
It may be a great gift for the single mom in your life!
These are beginning steps to help the single mom in your life.
You are the person who has the opportunity to make a lasting impact on her life!
You have been invited into the sacred spot of helping someone during their time of deep brokenness.
Some people cannot handle this position. They struggle to comprehend this kind of love and service to someone else.
It’s a sacred job! And one that will make the difference to the single mom and her children that God has placed in your life!
For more information, please consider this previous post: https://www.singlemomoutwest.com/what-single-parents-need-most/
Prayers for your journey,
Lacey
